He doesnt say anything about paying bills because he knows Im trying. Seek Financial Help and Counseling. What is up with people thinking they deserve everything??? She divorced my husbands step father later.She bought another car just to get the rebate to blow.I have seen her blow through thousands for her shoppping addiction. They are the selfish generation. If she needs money, well use the same line on her that she uses on everyone else you need to get a job. Thankfully, Husband realizes the problems shes caused along the way and knows his priorities. I truly hope that you have never offended someone in your real life as much as you offended me with that comment, and if you have you should probably worry more about your selfish soul than everyone else. Your money, your honey: Baby boomers are more likely to keep financial secrets. Im so angry because I know she is squandering her money because she feels that when she runs out and cant pay her bills, she can just move in with me and my husband. Ive supported myself since I was 17 and learnt to live within my means. Family is family, but you didnt exactly have a choice about supporting yourself when you were brought into this world. Unfortunately my moms retirement plan has always been to use her kids as a checking account while also being ungrateful for it and even complaining that she only gets 1k a month with a paid off condo and complaining that she sometimes has to babysit (like maybe twice a month and theyre old enough to be left alone, just need an adult with a pulse around to make sure theyre not getting into trouble.). They were once rich, but several bad business and personal decisions have severely depleted their wealth. My dad is 73 and diabetic, and my mom is 70 with stage-4 Parkinson disease. My mother wants to stop working, and both of them want to move in with me. Thank you, Noway, for bringing reality-based perspective regarding irresponsible, selfish, entitled parents into much needed focus! And, as a relevant comment, I would absolutely NOT support my parent that has made VERY poor financial decision his entire life, yet somehow still found a way to belittle my success. He and mom are now separated. You obviously missed the point that some states force you to pay for your parents if the state deems you can afford it, whether you can or not. I returned home for only one year and spent the entire time overworking to pay the bills and volunteering for other tours overseas. That pressure to fit in at work and build strong relationships can cause you to spend a lot of money that you might not otherwise spend. He addicted to gambling, so every dollar he has he borrows a car and takes off for 1-2 days at a time and comes back broke. My mother chose suicide over moving in with me after her husband died (complicated story, lets say she got him addicted to multiple things and openly discouraged healthy eating and exercising, all of which directly lead to his untimely death). so on his credit there is 30k + of unpaid debt all because of her. This is mainly because of their financial management values. All your bills will increase. Trust planning, whether as part of a testamentary trust in a will or inter vivos trust, can set aside funds for their use over time. These kinds of parents I think kids wouldnt have much of a problem with helping out even if it put a burden on their family. What spoiled and entitled group of people ever have. I just wondered if anybody has experienced this type of person, because I have never seen anybody like this my life. Even though his son is doing it willingly, or so he says, it gives me the feeling that he is a spineless wuss. Give family members gift cards if you are uncomfortable with cash. Hi there, Lucky, she still own a house with him and she asked me for $50 bucks on and off now. My mother chose not to work for the better part of the past 20yrs. I just dont put effort into maintaining friendships with people with whom it is expensive to maintain friendships. He did not. Forms: Authorization form | Military Authorization | USAA Authorization | Navy Federal Authorization | Credit Report Authorization, Copyright 2008-2016 American Credit Foundation, All Rights Reserved | Privacy Policy, Free Debt Consultation | Free Booklet | Simple Pay, Click "More" for important American Credit Foundation client transition information. =). That is why my mother is dependent on me now. I love them dearly but, they can set a camper up in my back yard and stay there if its that or homeless. Care for them in their old age? I tried to talk some sense into my pop years ago but it never worked. I envision i will have to support her someway, but I have a special needs child that will need that $$. My father can go drop dead in a ditch for all I care. I dont own a car. Ive had money and Ive had love and neither are worth dick unless you dont take it for granted. Ive even given up on romance 2 focus on raising my kids. If you dont communicate, both sides will continue to operate with unspoken assumptions and such assumptions will eventually come to bear, resulting in a very nasty conflict that can easily damage relationships. Let them. Thats what its there for! They made the ill-advised and regrettable decision to have children even though they were not mentally or fiscally equipped to deal with these challenges. When he married my mother they lived in Monte Carlo and Paris and mingled with famous and successful people. Favoritism hurts. A bottomless pit will never be filled and being able to see it for what it is before you put too much time, money, and effort is the only way to win. I was like WOW, really you ungrateful piece of shit.The reason he was so angry was because my brother is a drug addict and alcoholic and because I never would let him live with me and prior to that he had been still living with my parents and was homeless the whole time they were living with me, but I have children and would NEVER let a drug addict who says inappropriate and does inappropriate things around my children in my house for very long EVER, so he took it as I am evil for not having more compassion for dealing with the mess he created as an unsuccessful father in that regard. Communicate, communicate, communicate with your loved ones. Its helped me tremendously to read about other peoples situations. If you are a millionaire and your parents are in a home being paid for my the government. Even if they need my support one day, I could not keep up with the lifestyle that they have become accustomed to. I also know I would not be the woman I am today if she had not had dysfunctional parenting approaches that gave me bags of angst. You need to write a book! {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/6a\/Announce-Your-Retirement-Step-1-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Announce-Your-Retirement-Step-1-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/6\/6a\/Announce-Your-Retirement-Step-1-Version-2.jpg\/aid8498698-v4-728px-Announce-Your-Retirement-Step-1-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"